My girl friend is a seven day adventist and i'm a sunday worshiping christian?

cc_of_OZ is on target. You may indeed have some difficult times ahead of you -- but not impossible.

Keep in mind, that in many areas Seventh-day Adventist pastors are prohibited, by regional leadership, from marrying an Adventist and a non-Adventist.

I would recommend that you each talk to your respective pastors together as a couple. That you obtain marital counseling from each pastor and also study each other's beliefs with each pastor. If you thoroughly understand what the other believes, it is easier to respect their faith.

One of the most important things you must learn is to "fight fair." You may wish to employ a "Talking Stick" or some device to indicate who has the floor -- and the other one does not interrupt and until that person is done and hands over the "talking stick" to continue the discussion. Surprisingly this helps prevent issues from mushrooming into a crisis.

Another important thing: Don't consider divorce an option. Once you have gotten married, consider it a lifetime commitment. There may be times that you are tempted to give up -- but in the absence of abuse, Divorce is not God's plan. (Often adultery is cited as "grounds" but it is only a last resort -- even adultery should be worked out if humanly possible.)

Be sure to appreciate each other. Remember what you value in each other and express it often! It never hurts to say "I love you," "Wow that was a great supper, thanks for fixing my favorite," etc.

Finally, as for you and your future wife, I believe it is important to pray together! Just because you do not share the same religion, you are still both Christians. Pray together every night before you go to bed. Pray for each other and your child/children. It is terribly hard to stay angry at someone when you are praying with them!! By praying together you will also help prevent problems from "stewing" into resentment.

While Fiona M has some good advice I would strongly advise against taking your child to church on alternating churches alternating weeks - this will only lead to confusion and inhibit your child forming strong interpersonal ties in the church -- which is actually an important part of church -- fellowship.

Please work together to find a plan that will help your child grow up a committed Christian, rather than feeling like he/she was raised in a religious combat zone!!

Feel free to e-mail me if you have any specific questions about our faith, etc., that you would like to ask.